Why Is the Pandemic Such a Strange Experience?

The words I most often hear people use to describe the experience of living through the coronavirus pandemic are ‘weird’ and ‘strange’. They are referring to how everything that was normal is no longer normal. They live on the same, familiar streets but now their neighbours are potential risks who can carry the virus. The […]

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How well are you coping with the lockdown?

The key to how well we come out of the Covid-19 lockdown period depends on how well we get through it. Wellbeing, both physical and mental, is crucial at every step of the way. But how well are you managing? To answer this, I have designed a self-scoring test to help you ask yourself the […]

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The words to say it

One of the questions people often ask is ‘how can talking about myself make any difference?’ It is, on the face of it, a reasonable question. Someone suffering from anxiety, or depression, or repeated negative behaviour, or an inability to engage sexually, or suffering from abuse, will naturally wonder how such an ordinary human thing […]

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A life of seduction

A famous Hollywood actor once said that after a life of womanizing he was now lonely and expected to end his days alone. On the face of it, it was a sad epitaph to an otherwise full and successful life. Yet the same man was often the ideal that many ordinary men I have worked […]

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The age of rage

So much of what we hear going on in the world is bad news. Wars, terrorism, random shootings, organised crime, ubiquitous violence… We tend to try and understand these happenings in different ways, depending on the type of crime or violence involved. Wars are caused by ideological or territorial disputes between nations or within nations. […]

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Trauma and its aftermath

The experience of sexual or physical trauma is bad enough but its aftermath has an even crueller dimension. Trauma doesn’t happen once, it repeats, it comes back. Its major psychological after-effect is that it forces us, often against our will, to remember it, to rethink it, replay it, over and over again. Sometimes it even […]

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